Are you feeling hopeless about your relationship? Feeling like you and your partner have grown apart, argue all the time, or don’t seem to be able to hear each other anymore? Has there been a betrayal or a loss in trust? Has your sexual or intimate relationship dwindled or fallen by the way side all together? Do you reminisce about an earlier time in the relationship when it seemed easier to feel close and make time for yourselves?
Unhealthy patterns of communication, unmet needs and unrealistic expectations can lead to feeling lonely, misunderstood, and ultimately disconnected from your partner. As a relationship therapist, I look forward to helping clients improve listening skills, be more mindful of past hurts and ways of being triggered, build trust, and improve overall connection and satisfaction from your partner(s).
Relationship counseling is appropriate for relationships of all kinds including individuals who are married, dating, divorced, partnered, monogamous, non-monogamous, open, polyamorous, and of varying sexual and gender identities. When you first reach out to inquire about working with me I will likely want to arrange a phone call with each members of the relationship to ascertain issues of interest and consider past treatment or other mental health needs.
We will then schedule three sessions. One will be an intake session with all parties so that I can ask questions to learn more about your relationship history and interest in treatment. Then I will meet with each partner separately to obtain a personal history and perspective on the relationship. We will all come together in the third session to review treatment goals and determine fit. Typically, I see couples on a weekly basis with a suggested three-six month commitment initially. As couples make progress, session frequency may decrease to 2-3x per month if indicated.
Issues
- pre-commitment issues/relationship transitions (moving in together, considering marriage, preparing for pregnancy/retirement).
- recently divorced
- infidelity
- parenting challenges
- finances
- communication
- beliefs and values
- roles
- Intimacy and sex
- family relationships
- decision-making
- dealing with conflict
- time spent together
Ethical Non-Monogamy
The term “non-monogamy” is an umbrella term that captures all forms of relationship practices that do not fit the typical guidelines of monogamous relationships. Non-monogamous relationships can include polyamory, swinging, open relationships, and various levels of commitment. Some people live with a primary partner, while other people explore dating and/or living with multiple partners.
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